Why I don’t care about your Virginity

I am amazed by the number of people who talk about saving themselves for their husbands or wives. Now don’t get me wrong, I actually think that it is a really good idea to treat sex with some sort of respect. I don’t think that it is possible to have sex for the first time without some sort of emotional ramification and so I am happy that teenagers decide to ‘save themselves’, but why do I have to know about it? I am happy that you made that decision, but really I don’t care!

They have these virginity pledges these days and this is an example that I ripped from Wikipedia;

"Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate, and my future children to a lifetime of purity including sexual abstinence from this day until the day I enter a Biblical marriage relationship."

Again, not having a problem with the pledge but stop talking about it. I just don’t care. If I walked up and randomly told you about my sex life you would be insulted. Well, wait, bored first but then insulted, but I have to see you talking about it on facebook pages and blogs. I know that I can just turn the computer off but what I really want if for those kids to really think about what they are writing, saying and pledging. When I hear that someone has pledged this I feel many emotions.

I feel grateful that the person pledging has had such a charmed life. I hear the pledge and see the millions of girls who, for a variety of reasons have never been allowed the respect of that choice. In my mind I see the children in Africa, mindlessly raped as their parents are killed in front of them. But you don’t have to go far abroad to have to see that. In USA and Australia every day, there are children ‘losing their virginity’ to their fathers, brothers and random adults. Where was their choice? Where is their ability to pledge?

I also feel sadness, that the person pledging loudly has so little ability to be empathetic to those who are not provided the tools or the self respect to see sex as anything other than a means to an end. Those children are as deserving of sympathy as the raped child.

So I guess what I am saying tonight, because I am in a pensive mood, is that I applaud your choice to wait and treat sex as the beautiful thing that it is, but please I don’t want to know. It is a choice that you make every time that you and your partner meet, but it is yours. You should know about it and fairly quickly your partner should too. Other than that it really isn’t anyone else’s business. It isn’t a badge of courage; courage is the person surviving when virginity was taken from them. It shows respect for your body when you abstain, but doesn’t show respect for those less fortunate, when you tout that decision blindly. Respect yourself, for that you have my full agreement, but yelling that from the rooftops, only glorifies yourself.